Thursday, October 23, 2008

Pages in our life

Every day of our livies we go through events. Most of them are insignificant because they are routine.
We don't even worry about them because we want to be over and done with them as soon as we begin with the task.
But the are other events that happen maybe once in our life time that need special attention. We can not forget them because they carry special significance in our lives. They mean so much to us that we document them by photography and now film.(just incase we forget).
The first of these events are our birth. This is the most important event, because without it nothing no other event can follow.
Than comes first birthday, first day of school.......the things we do to the first time. And then our 16th birthday.
Our graduation from highschool is also of importance than its collage university and finally graduation from the institute.
After all this comes our 21th bith day, this is of greatest importance because you are now confirmed an adult. Welcome to the adult world now you have the capacity to enter into agreements , make you will, marry without consent of your guardians
Marriage it self is a significant event.....some describe it as the most significant event because it happens only once, well mostly OK some times. Why is marriage so significant to us. Well lets get a clear definition of marriage.
A legal definition will go something like this : “the lifelong union between a man and woman to the exclusion of all other persons, based upon consensus of the two parties concerned ” however the above
definition can not be true for the following reasons. One the union does not have to be life long and two with “add rights” so call constitution rights as entrench in the bill of rights we have freedoms. One of them is freedom of sexual orientation therefor in some countries gay marriages are allowed,
so lets try for a newer definition “an agreement between two parties to live with each other in union for an undetermined period or until death.”
Now that we have a definition no matter how inaccurate it may be be lets take into account the marriage it self. The are three rings to any marriage the engagement ring, the wedding ring and the last the suffer Ring. The engagement itself its an elaborate event with the exchange of trays between the woman of the parties to the further marriage. And basically is away to show off, and in doing so impress the other side. Than its the wedding itself. This much more elaborate than the engagement bu the virtue of the the size of the event. More guest more decoration more food and more money. But the is a way out of it. Elope .take your bride by the hand and run trust me that's the best way to prevent moths ands moths of aguish by your mother-in-law telling you how much they spent., more than the big daughter. And how long they took to pay the bill.
Now comes the last ring the suffering: well it can start at any time once the marriage starts. But usually the first three moths is so called the honeymoon period. So for covience of this blogg lets say that the suffering takes place on the fourth month after the commencement of the marriage.
This takes form in may different ways and may favorite is the yelling swearing and insulting of each others mothers. The best part of this disagreement is the last which is kiss and make up.
If after some time you find that you made the wrong choice the is the remedy of divorce.
But divorce I a separate event altogether one I hope no one who reads this blogg goes through.
In the marriage the are many events that take place. Your first fight, your first house and the first baby.
This itself is of great significance not only for your self but for man kind. Not only you carry on your own generation but you prevent the extinction of the human species from the face of the earth.
And so the story goes on passing the same routine from one generation to the other each generation finding better ways to document the events that are so precious to us. As we pass our kids take over. And finally one day in the distant furture a kid comes across a photo of you in a significant event and asks the question: “Mom who is this”

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